Lack of Communication

Did you ever notice that communication is a lost art? Do we really say anything anymore? Sure, we talk, but do we say much? Listen to nearby conversations and most are filled with "filler talk".
I comprehend the need for superficial discourse, I really do. It invites further conversation. That leads me to my next question. When does superficial conversation become deeper? At what point in the conversation do you think you should probe the person to ascertain whether or not there is more to be said?
Do you want someone that is shallow? If that is the case, more power to you. I want people I can actually speak to and then can, in turn, communicate to me.
If all you want to do is talk about the weather, or how the day was good or bad, I will talk and engage it myself too. However, do you want to know more about a person other than what he or she thinks about the weather?? Do you want to know what makes him or her tick? What their views are on other subject matters?
My aim is NOT to put people down. On the contrary, my aim is to entice people to seek out more than what lays on the surface. Scratch it, probe it and you will be amazed that people do possess depth that you never knew existed.
The lack of communication comes in when you have pre-conceived notions about a person. Being judgmental based on their previous conversations may be slightly off. Gauging a person once without trying another tactic is not what communication is all about.
If you have tried on more than one occasion, then the likelihood of having meaningful conversation may end up taking a back seat. The ball would be in your court at that point.
While there will be times of frustration with your partner and friends, remember that communication is a two-step process. Both parties should be actively involved. Paraphrasing what someone had just said is an excellent way of seeing if you understood what the other person said or meant.
There are a great deal of ways to communicate both verbally and non- verbally. Each one has their own guidelines and must be implicit in order to gain any understanding of the other people around you.